Yes, like the myth that having sex will make you happy and solve all of your problems.
Well, I survived that nasty part of my life, and though I am happy with the person I am now (and as a human being is, arguably, the sum of his/her experiences) those are not memories I cherish.
I think there are some very conflicting messages our culture sends about sex that require an adult mind to sort through. For example, there seems to be this general assumption that men are always horny and want to have sex no matter what. This myth is then taken to the next level by arguing that men cannot be expected to control themselves sexually, especially if there is a girl around who is wearing a short skirt and is drunk.
Many people say that feminists are man-haters, but I don't think that has to be the case. Feminists say that men do have the ability to control themselves, that they aren't just testosterone driven animal, and I think that is a far more man-loving view of men then some of these nasty myths that stick around.
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Date: 2008-09-08 02:09 am (UTC)Well, I survived that nasty part of my life, and though I am happy with the person I am now (and as a human being is, arguably, the sum of his/her experiences) those are not memories I cherish.
I think there are some very conflicting messages our culture sends about sex that require an adult mind to sort through. For example, there seems to be this general assumption that men are always horny and want to have sex no matter what. This myth is then taken to the next level by arguing that men cannot be expected to control themselves sexually, especially if there is a girl around who is wearing a short skirt and is drunk.
Many people say that feminists are man-haters, but I don't think that has to be the case. Feminists say that men do have the ability to control themselves, that they aren't just testosterone driven animal, and I think that is a far more man-loving view of men then some of these nasty myths that stick around.
Sigh.